All of Us

All of Us

If I can write deeply and meaningfully about the worst part of someone or about the stellar behavior of another, it’s because it’s in me, too. … It’s all of us.

My Love and Your Self-Interest

My Love and Your Self-Interest

In that balance of love and concern and holding space for loving them no matter what, another stoic lesson helps me: your self-interest is outside of me, outside of my control. 

Grief By Numbers; Pivot By Treats

Grief By Numbers; Pivot By Treats

Firsts and Anniversaries

Firsts and Anniversaries

I doubt that grief has a one-size-fits-all strategy. The best I can do as I find my way through this darkness is give myself and others grace as we muddy this first set of holidays and memories with our awkward steps (and missteps) through them.